I understand completely what this means for a society that stares at monitors and calls it socializing. But I must honestly say that I have never felt lonely, or I just don’t know what being lonely feels like. It may have something to do with being an only child or being extremely shy, or maybe it’s because I’m so introverted I don’t even notice people. Or, and this is a big one; I am truly a misanthrope.
Oatmeal, Milk 'N Honey
DEPRESSION: my muse 
I can identify with this. The same goes for boredom. I am never bored.
I think we may be damage and not know it. Humans are social animals, meant to socialize and be in groups. Or we could have evolved past the point of needing socialization. The coming world no matter how crowded will see people unto themselves more often. And if some big event comes and wipes out a large percent of the population then we how have learned to live with just our thoughts will have a slight advantage.
Or maybe we’ve become numb to protect ourselves
there are so many things i used to worry about that I don’t have much feeling about anymore. I don’t know if that’s a good sign (I suspect it isn’t)
for example, a female friend of 20 years ended because I actually accomplished the goal of writing a book. Of course, it may have been other things but it seems that accomplishing a single goal brought the pot to a boil
I ask myself all the time, do I miss her?
and the honest answer is no.
but I feel like I should miss her EXCEPT what kind of friendship did I lose where a friend couldn’t be supportive of another friend?
I hope this doesn’t sound trivial but after so many disappointments with the human species, some of us have learned to please ourselves
i’m not convinced this is good for a society or for a people (black) who desperately need to come together
Miss Pam
When I opened my company, I lost “friends” too. Do I lose sleep over it? Nope.
Nor should you. People want you to be no better than them and as soon as you prove yourself upwardly mobile you’ll see the hatred come in.
@ Hunglikejesus
hatred is a strong word, but that’s what it feels like,
like you have suddenly become the enemy
Miss Pam
I read a quote once that went something like this:
“No one wants to be around someone that reminds them of their failures.”
“Everytime a friend success, I die a little”
–>Gore Vidal
“Succeeds”
that’s called true hatred.
It’s hatred and nothing but. You know that Ms. Pam, Black hate nothing more than other Black people and don’t let that Black person be doing or trying to do something.
@ Negress
Did your “friends” say or do something that tipped you off that they had a problem with you opening your own business?
just curious..
Miss Pam
My one “friend” is best described as a social butterfly. The amount of people she knows and socializes with is stunning…not including her Facebook followers.
I asked her, when the company was up and running, for help spreading the word since advertising is expensive. I got silence followed by a mumbling-grumbling excuse why she “couldn’t do it right now.”
I knew then and there, we were over.
Then there’s the other “friend” who told me that spreading the word amongst her church congregation was “a lot to think about.”
Then there’s the other “friend” who wanted to know every single detail about my hair cremes and soaps to “make sure she didn’t develop an allergic reaction and her hair didn’t fall out.”
I’ve said this before and I’m gonna say it again:
The biggest problem the African race has isn’t white folks, it’s Negroes. Now I NEVER ask anyone to “help me.” If they do it, it’s because they genuinely want to.
You know misery loves itself some company, you were no longer proving yourself miserable.
I think the intention was to separate people and make us think that were are indeed islands. All this social media has replaced so many things people did face to face and in essence is making us less human. For Black people as with everything, it affects us the most.
Like I stated up there; I have never related to loneliness, I think I do better by myself as I don’t like to talk a lot and I live mostly in my head. This of course is what I was made into by years of torture. Introspection does not make for good company. The only thing I can say that I truly miss is having someone that I love next to me. Sharing unspoken moments of communications and reading to one another. Of course the feel of warm skin against my own, but those things are easy to forget when you soak yourself in other interests. But no matter how hard I try to get my computer to hug me, my computer will never be taught to hug me.
The best thing about the video came in the end: “mentor”. The guy making the video had a mentor. He did not have to go at it alone. Peace.
Yes. And that makes all the difference in the world. When I’m around others my inspiration is endless. When I’m alone my inspiration is still endless, but one track.
As I become more Awakened, my “friends” began to disappear. And i’m 100% ok with that.
Oh yes, you can look forward to that happening. And you better be ready to be okay with it, cause it’s gonna happen. This is a “lonely” journey, and once you start you can never turn back.
I am a misanthrope.
Me too Ms. Mary. We gotta embrace it and own it.
I can relate as well, I’m not lonely my parents think I am cuz I don’t really have friends other than online. I don’t feel lonely or bored being by myself, I love listening to music and getting lost in a good book. I used to be outgoing when I was a little kid but as u grow older u lose patience and just don’t want to deal with too many ppl. I hate having to try to create small talk with ppl, and I hate the awkward silence. I hate ppl just talking about the weather, beyonce, housewives, kartrashians, and other dumb things and me pretending I give a dam. I can’t relate to the asleep ones anymore, I don’t think being by yourself is a bad thing because those are the ones who invent things and get stuff done. I just click with some ppl and can be myself. I like ppl who are nice, softspoken, and if there is silence between us its not awkward.
Or….you could be toogood4us. LOL!!!!
I’m very social when I have to be and I can create small talk with the best of them. I over compensate for my shyness. I can be the life of the party, but it’s not me. I’m a better me when left on my own. I’m really not into popular culture either and most things–like you somewhat said–people talk about are so trivial and silly. Us loner are the ones who shall carry this race into a new era. Us, the ones who think and feel, the ones who feel and listen. The you(s) and the me(s) are the people who will be the people. The ones that refuse to take some tired, old, beaten path. We can see pass the ones up ahead and prepare with the ones behind. At least that’s how I see it, but I’m a bit of a romantic.
Thank you sis for that little piece of yourself.
rofl. im not too good 4 u jesus lol
“Us loner are the ones who shall carry this race into a new era. Us, the ones who think and feel, the ones who feel and listen. The you(s) and the me(s) are the people who will be the people. The ones that refuse to take some tired, old, beaten path. We can see pass the ones up ahead and prepare with the ones behind”
This right here is gold. i’m a better listener than a talker, I think us, the ppl who sit down and listen are the ones who actually learn and observe things and can come up with thought out solutions. I like to read everyone else’s comments before I comment if I’m the first one booyah lol. Who knows jesus maybe someday our kind will be in style lol, we see how the nerds were out now they are so in right now since they created facebook, iphones, ipods, etc.